How to Find the PERFECT Boyfriend at Work

If you're in search for a new boyfriend, work is the perfect place to find him. All the tools you need for finding Mr. Right are waiting for you in the work place!

Things You’ll Need:

• Self Control
• Power of Observation

1. Is it You or Everyone? ~ First, when the flirting begins, observe his interaction with other women. Is he flirting with you specifically or is he just a flirt? If he's super friendly with all the ladies, you should dismiss him immediately. You don't want a boyfriend who's always on the prowl.
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   Talk & Listen ~ Have conversations and listen carefully to what he says. Does he badmouth others? Is he critical of people's appearance? Does he seem to resent people who are more successful at life, love, work? Does he say nasty things about his ex? Remember, no relationship is free of interpersonal struggle. Someday he will likely be saying and thinking the same things about you. A pattern of negativity is an indication of big boyfriend problems down the road.
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   Reliability ~ You can't build a life with someone who doesn't live up to his responsibilities. Does he show up for work everyday? Is he on time? Does he have a strong work ethic? These are indications of his character. If he has a habit of dismissing his responsibilities, he'll probably have the same attitude to his commitments and responsibilities in a relationship.
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   Crisis Mode ~ Knowing how a man will react in a crisis is a key advantage to finding a mate in the workplace. Use naturally occurring stress as an opportunity to see how he reacts under pressure. Does he crumble? When the heat is on, does he run from the kitchen? Or does he roll up his sleeves and get down to business? His reaction to adversity will be the same on the job or in your living room. When things fall apart, as they sometimes do, you want someone who will help you pick up the pieces.
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   Blame Game ~ We all mess up occasionally, but for some of us it becomes a way of life. Fortunately, you can tell the difference between a genuine mistake and a behavioral pattern by watching how he deals with his own shortcomings. When he's confronted with his own errors or professional shortcomings, how does he react? Does he look for someone else to blame? Does he become confrontational? Or does he acknowledge his mistakes, learn from them, and keep working? No one is perfect, but some of us don't even have the capacity to improve. When mistakes happen in the relationship, you don't want to be his next scape-goat.
6. Finer Points ~ Picking a boyfriend is not just about weeding out the frogs. It's about getting the prince! What traits really matter to you in a mate? Kindness? Generosity? Compassion? If you want ingenuity, does he have it? Watch him in the workplace. Does he demonstrate any of those qualities? If not, he's probably not going to express them in his personal life either.
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   References ~ This is one of the best tools workplace romance has to offer. He's been working there for years. His coworkers have seen him under all kinds of stress. They probably know quite a bit about his personal life and romantic history. Many of them aren't his personal friends, so their opinions won't all be biased. Find a coworker who has known him for a while. It should be someone who has never dated him or competed with him in any way. Choose someone who is not a gossip. Ask them about his character and history. You don't have to get very specific. Just ask if they think he's a good guy. Let them know their answer will be held in confidence.
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   Decide ~ Reflect on your observations and the information you've gathered about him. Does he meet your criteria for a boyfriend? Does he send up any red flags? Do you need more time to be sure? If you still have questions, don't make a move. Bad workplace romances can be a source of gossip and can turn a pleasant job into a daily nightmare. However, if you feel confident that he'll be mature and respectful even if things don't work out, go for it. Start flirting back. Initiate some conversation. You may be looking at Mister Right!